Not telling me
How to get your toddler to tell you they need to go
Telling first needs three things: noticing the feeling, recognizing what it means, and stopping play to say so. That takes practice. Most kids get there a week or more after the first catches.
What to do this week
- Name the feeling as it happens: "Your body is telling you pee is coming.".
- Make telling the big win. Celebrate every time they tell you, even if it's mid-accident or after.
- Slowly fade your reminders. Swap the timer for prompts at transitions so there's room for them to lead.
What to say
“You told me! That's exactly what big kids do.”
Try not to say
“You need to tell me before, not after.”
When to call your pediatrician
- Pain, burning or crying when peeing
- Fewer than 4 pees a day, or very dark pee
- Fever, smelly or cloudy pee
- Constant dribbling, never really dry
More guides
- Getting startedSigns your toddler is ready for potty trainingRead the guide
- Getting startedWhat's the best age to start potty training?Read the guide
- First daysHow many accidents are normal in the first week of potty training?Read the guide
- First days3-day potty training not working? What to do on day 3Read the guide
Last reviewed October 26, 2026. Based on public guidance from the American Academy of Pediatrics (HealthyChildren.org) and the NHS. This is general information, not medical advice. If you're worried about your child's health, talk to your pediatrician.